About thirteen of us. Children. We were what you’d call ” Butty ” or “Ajebutter ” or ” Ọmọ get inside ”
Almost every house had much older relatives or siblings aside mine. As much as we were sheltered, these adults were permitted to play with us and watch over us whenever we were allowed to step out of our houses.
Communication between us children used to be via windows, peepholes from doors and balcony to balcony. Just a few of us used the landline. Starcomms, to be precise. Lol
Nobody thought much about these aunties and uncles. They did their thing and all was well as long as they weren’t trying to stop us from playing whenever we got the chance to or threatening to send us inside when we began our childhood shenanigans. Lol
I observed that some of the children were called to follow some adults at certain times. I didn’t think much of it as long as they allowed me to read or be left alone, lost in the wonder of my imaginations until it got to my turn. I was only but a child. They marched us upstairs, paired us in two’s and told us to watch.
My mind couldn’t understand what was going on. Why was this aunty making strange noises? Why was this aunty tied up? Why is this uncle looking this way? Why didn’t they even have clothes on? My eyes kept roaming through the entire room.
The ones supposed to protect us got off on each other right before our eyes. We were meant to watch.
This was only the beginning.
1. ” UNICEF reported in 2015 that one in four girls and one in ten boys in Nigeria had experienced sexual violence before the age of 18. ”
2. ” According to UNICEF, six out of ten children in Nigeria experience emotional, physical or sexual abuse before the age of 18, with half experiencing physical violence. ”
3. ” Non-contact sexual abuse includes:
Showing pornography to a child
Deliberately exposing an adult’s genitals to a child
Photographing a child in sexual poses
Encouraging a child to watch or hear sexual acts
Inappropriately watching a child undress or use the bathroom…”
1. My story
2. UNICEF, wikipedia
3. Tip Sheet: Defining And Understanding Child Sexual Abuse by StopItNowDotOrg